“Why do you dislike meeting new people?”
Of course I don’t dislike meeting new people. I dislike the
idea of adding more people to my life for reasons very simple. People always
complain about not having enough time. And this complaint is argued against by
the concepts of ‘effective time management’ and ‘proper planning’. Time is
always there for people who make the effort or so they say. But really now,
let’s sit down and think about it rationally. Is there really enough time for
everything we have to do and everyone we wish to be with? I mean, sure – we do
waste a lot of time each day but who would want to live a life without some
breathing room. A life where everything is so meticulously planned out and live
out to an almost obsessive tendency for perfection. A life without the
surprises of life. A life devoid of the little joys and tiny bumps that life
offers us – each an opportunity to mold our very spirit. Different flames
breathing down on our white flame spirit, each trying to leave a mark in its own
way.
Coming back – we have so many people in our lives already.
And getting to know a person – in and out, through and through – is no simple
task. People have a tendency to throw curve balls at you and every turning and
crossing. Just when you think you’ve figured them out, they surprise you in the
most strangest of ways – by doing something you wouldn’t think they would,
trying something they were afraid of, failing to uphold their principles in the
rotten society that exists today….. The list goes on. People don’t stop. Life
doesn’t stop. In some ways everyone has to admit that it is indeed a marathon.
A never-ending one with no beginning or end. Only a middle. Each leg of the
race can change both you and the people you already know either to a large degree
or minimally. But change remains the one and only constant in life. Not people.
Change. The change in people. The change in our surroundings. And most
importantly, the changes within you. Each day is a fresh one, each time you
talk to someone you know – a new experience. It’s never the same. Not if you
pay attention. As the clock ticks life away, principles change, outlooks
change, and character changes – for better or for worse.
With all these things already going on in one’s life – with
way too many people to make connections with – with a myriad of complexities to
solve – with questions with no answers and answers with no questions – with
doubts, fear, and regret – why would any rational being want to add fuel to the
fire? Why would you willfully cut down what little time you have to sort out
what is already present? Is that not just another way of running away? By
forgetting that which we held dear to move onto the unknown, as a twisted sense
of temporary relief emerges. Of course, the cycle repeats. Eventually the ‘new’
of today become the ‘old’ of tomorrow and ‘life’ – if you can call it that –
continues like usual.
